¿Cuáles son tus planes a corto y largo plazo?
Pagar deudas / reponer criptomonedas (250k) Septiembre 2020
Recolocarme a Medellin / Bogota - doble empleo Junio / Diciembre 2020
Iniciar empresa de desarrollo de software con mi hermana, MX - Diciembre 2020
Recolocarme a Frutillar / Chile - 2021
Aprender Aleman / Frances - 2021 - 2022
Aprender Piano / Canto / 2021 - 2022
¿Qué legado pretendes dejar?
Mis hijos serán mi principal legado / representación, quiero dos.
Legado a través del software que escriba y libere al público
Voy a donar una parte importante (50%?) de mis bienes a causas en las que crea
Educación
Tecnologia: Wikipedia
Medicina: Clinica de hemodialisis (en nombre de mi madre)
Expectativas de pareja
Crisis / Victorias / Enfermedad
Deseo que nos alentemos a cumplir nuestros objetivos
Que nos alegremos por las victorias de nuestra pareja
Que se evite la competencia entre nosotros
Que seamos mejores en pareja que la suma de nosotros por separado
Perdida de trabajo
Tiempo a solas
Tiempo en el trabajo
No más de 10 hrs en su totalidad al día, incluyendo conmutación
Tiempo con amigos
Al menos una vez a la semana, 2-4 hrs
Tiempo con familia extendida
Solo necesito estar en eventos / celebraciones importantes. Abierto a las necesidades de mi pareja, pero sin llegar al extremo de vivir con ellos o viceversa.
Cambio de carrera
Si en algún momento alguien desea hacer un cambio de vocación espero que nos podamos apoyar del otro para lograrlo, nuestra felicidad es lo más importante, lo demás llega por añadidura.
Para considerar un cambio de carrera espero que creemos un fondo especial para lidiar con gastos diarios, buena parte de dicho fondo, al menos el 40% debería venir de la persona que quiera hacer el cambio.
Vivienda
Donde viviremos
Quiero vivir en un lugar propicio para la educación y el bienestar de nuestros hijos, un lugar con énfasis en la cultura, la seguridad y el arte, por el momento, lo más cercano a ese ideal para mi es Frutillar, Chile, pero abierto a cualquier posibilidad, el planeta es nuestro hogar.
¿Como determinaremos un cambio de residencia?
Por situaciones financieras extremas, inestabilidad politica / economica o por la educacion de nuestros hijos (durante los primeros años de la vida de nuestros hijos considero que vivamos en USA para regalarles un segundo idioma nativo)
- Un aumento / oportunidad que no duplique nuestros ingresos no lo considero razon suficiente
- Preferiria trabajar en el extranjero o de regreso en Mexico y mandar remesas que exponer a mi familia a un nivel de vida inferior.
¿Qué tan cerca debemos vivir de nuestros padres? / familia extendida
Sin comentarios respecto a la mia, somos independientes. Abierto a las necesidades de mi pareja siempre y cuando no impacte negativamente a nuestra familia. Con preferencia a visitas familiares semestrales.
Familia
A. When do you plan to start a family?
B. How far apart would you want your kids to be in age?
C. Would abortion ever be acceptable before or after that?
D. What kinds of philosophies did your parents have about child raising and do you agree or disagree?
E. How do each of you intend to shape your children’s values
F. What kinds of punishment are appropriate or not appropriate?
G. What kinds of expectations do you each have about money spent on toys, clothes, etc.
6. Money
A. Will you have separate or joint checking accounts or both?
B. If you do have different accounts, who will be responsible for which expenses?
C. Who will pay the bills?
D. Do you agree to have full financial disclosure about each of your personal financial situation at all times?
E. How will strong disagreements about spending money be resolved?
F. Is there any debt that either partner has incurred before the marriage (ex. college or graduate school loans or credit card debt).
G. What amount of available money does each of you need to have to feel comfortable?
H. Will there be a savings plan for the first house?
I. Do you plan to keep trading houses as you can afford it?
J. How much credit card debt or home equity loan debt is acceptable?
K. Agreement about taking care of the financial needs of parents if likely?
L. Do you plan to send your kids to private or parochial school?
M. What will be the plans for children’s college education?
N. When do you hope to begin saving for retirement?
O. Will you use a financial planner?
P. Who will complete the taxes?
* H. Are you both comfortable with the salary differential between you?
7. Parents and In-laws
A. How much time does each of you need to spend with your parents and how much do you expect your partner to join you?
B. How do you plan to spend the holidays?
C. What will be the holiday expectations of each of your parents and how will you deal with those expectations?
D. What kind of support do you expect from your partner when the parents are putting pressure on you?
E. Is it OK for either of you to talk with parents about the problems of the relationship?
F. What kind of relationship do you expect your kids to have with your parents?
G. Do you anticipate that you will ever want a parent to live with the two of you when you grow old?
8. Gender Role Expectations
A. What did your parents model for you concerning who did what in the family?
B. Did you feel that was fair and do you expect something different?
C. Does each of you have some preferences that might be unrelated to gender?
D. How will you deal with household or yard maintenance? How will you divvy up these responsibilities or hire someone?
E. Do both of you expect to work if you have children?
F. When the children get sick, how do you decide who stays home with them?
9. Do you agree on issues around erotic moments together?
A. How often do you want to enjoy an intimate evening with each other?
B. How do you intend to resolve differences in sexual preferences?
C. Can you work out an agreement about how to deal with differences in the frequency of sexual desire?
D. Are there certain things that are clearly off limits?
E. Do you agree to talk about your sexual concerns at a time when you both are feeling creative and relaxed and not during sex?
10. How will you resolve heated conflicts?
A. What can you learn about how your partner likes to deal with conflict based on their experience in their family of origin.
B. What feels comfortable to each of you, as your partner gets upset?
C. Can either of you ask for a timeout to calm down and be creative in your problem-solving?
D. What rituals will you develop to reach out to each other after a big fight?
11. Spiritual Life
A. What does spirituality mean to each of you?
B. What kind of participation do you expect in each other in some form of spiritual community?
C. How will you share what means something to you with them?
D. Will your children be expected to attend any regular services or religious education?
E. Will the children go through certain rituals such as baptism, christening, first communion, confirmation, bar or bat mitzvah?
A. Do you want to establish from the beginning that affairs are not an option?
B. Do you agree that affairs of the heart are equal to sexual infidelity?
C. Will you talk to your partner about someone that you feel drawn to as a colleague or erotically since this can build the bond between you and your partner rather than the outside person?
D. Will you commit to never talking to a person of the opposite sex (except a therapist or clergy) about your relationship with your partner since this builds a bond outside of your relationship?
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